As I’m writing this, I am sitting inside my warm house enjoying the light, bright snowfall outside. Days like today are small reminders that my job is truly a blessing. Today, I am not running around decorating for a reception or finding a groomsman’s missing shoes. Instead, I am sitting in my house clothes and comfy robe writing words to help new couples who are in love and excited with great anticipation! I adore love! And I love being in the business of working with couples in love who are committed to spending a life together, learning how to love each other better!
Ok, I’m done with my rant. Now on to what you came here to read.
The question was popped, you said ‘yes’… now what? After you celebrate with your friends and family, then it’s time to start planning, but where to begin? The answer is not the same for every couple, but these five tips will help you navigate the waters of wedding planning, together. And remember, you can always hire a wedding planner (link to my page) to help along the way.
Set a budget.
Everyone has a budget, no matter if you want to spend over $100,000 or less than $10,000 on your wedding, everyone has a price. Talk with your significant other about what you are comfortable spending. If family members (parents, grandparents, aunts) want to chip in, then factor that money in as well. When my husband and I were planning our wedding, we learned that it was a tradition for his grandmother to pay for the wedding cake for her grandchildren. This was not something we had planned for in the budget, but it was a welcomed surprised when she handed us money and told us to put it toward the cake. Don’t be discouraged if you are afraid you won’t have enough money for your wedding, a loving family member may decide to give you a blessing. If you are looking for an easy way to calculate your budget, The Knot is a helpful place that can give you ideas of how much to plan for. Use this wedding budget calculator to help as you plan your wedding.
Choose a time of year.
Do you and your partner want a spring, summer, fall, or winter wedding? Notice I said ‘time of year’ and NOT ‘date’. Many couples want to choose a date immediately after the proposal, but this isn’t always the best way. If you choose a date, for example, June 5th, then you have to choose vendors who have availability that day. Instead of choosing a photographer and caterer that you love, you have to choose one who is available. If you choose a time of year, summer and preferably June, then when you reach out to your favorite photographer, you have a better chance of booking her for your wedding. Of course, there are exceptions, if your favorite grandparents got married on June 5th or your brother is home on leave and your sister is leaving to study abroad, then by all means, choose a specific date. Just know it may be harder to coordinate with your favorite vendors when you have only one date available.
Submit your proposal story.
All proposals are beautiful! Whether your proposal happened in the car because of nerves or you had a fairy tale proposal on a yacht in the Caribbean, all proposal stories are special and they are all worthy of being told and retold. You will already be retelling your proposal story over and over again (get ready!) so why not put it on the internet for the world to see. You can submit your proposal story to a site like How He Asked. Wouldn’t it be fun to have your love story featured on a blog for all the world to see? And one day you can show your kids how cool you used to be.
Make sure the ring fits and then insure it.
Now that you have your gorgeous ring on your finger, make sure it fits. You don’t want it slipping off while you wash dishes or get cold. And you don’t want it cutting off your circulation. If your ring fits perfectly, then way to go fiancé! Next, make sure that your ring is insured. You can usually add the ring to your homeowner’s or renter’s insurance policy. So call your insurance agent and see what works best for you!
Enjoy your engagement.
Planning and daydreaming about your perfect wedding is so fun. But so is savoring the moments with your partner. Engagement is over before you know it and it is such a sweet and special occasion. There are few times in your life as celebratory as an engagement. During the engagement, people are begging to know your proposal story, or to celebrate with you. They want to throw parties and showers for you and ‘ooh and aww’ over what a perfect couple you make. Engagement is a special time, so ENJOY IT!