Ryan’s Wedding Vows to Me
I, Ryan, take you, Megan, to be my partner in life and my one true love, my constant friend, and my lover, the mother of my children and my wife.
In the presence of God and our family and friends, I offer you my solemn vow to be your faithful partner in sickness and in health, in your successes and in your failures, in times of plenty and in times of want.
I love what I know of you, and trust what I do not yet know. I eagerly anticipate the chance to grow together, getting to know the woman you are and are becoming, and falling in love a little more every day.
I will trust you and respect you. I promise to love you unconditionally, to support you in your goals, to honor you, to laugh with you and cry with you, to care and protect you, to comfort and encourage you, and to cherish you for all eternity. I give you my hand, my heart, and my love, from this day forward as we create our happily ever after!
Promises turned into Actions
Ryan lived out these words in a way I could never have imagined. He loved selflessly, sacrificially, and wholeheartedly. Our love story was my favorite fairytale because our story was filled REAL, vulnerable, tough, authentic love.
The words of our wedding vows hung on canvases above our bed in all the homes we shared. We spoke our vows to one another often. And would read them silently when we needed extra encouragement to love the other that day. Words matter to me and sincere promises followed by genuine actions mattered to Ryan.
“I promise to love you unconditionally, to support you in your goals, to honor you, to laugh with you and cry with you.”
Ryan did all of these things so well! He honored my dreams and goals. He supported me as I started Stressless Weddings. He worked countless weddings with me during my first year in business.
We have shared thousands of laughs. And we have cried some of the most healing tears together. Ryan was an incredible man who desired to love me deeper. He continued to grow in compassion, emotional intelligence, and understanding throughout our relationship.
He served me best and loved me most. I am grateful to have shared our special love. His servant’s heart for the world was beautiful and the ways he served me were indescribably profound.
The act of washing each other’s feet was one of his favorite biblical acts. He often preached about the significance of foot washing. One of the only aspects of the ceremony he asked for was the sacrificial act of foot washing. And what a special moment we shared with all who were gathered with us that day.
“Wash each other’s feet.” – Jesus
If you haven’t noticed yet, we chose to not include the words “until death do us part” in our wedding vows. We knew that one day if death ever did part us, our love would still remain. The vows would still be true and we would never stop loving the other.
We chose a forever vow that stated we would love the other for all of eternity. For all of our lives, both here and beyond. I’m grateful we chose these words, because this promise means more to me today than I’d ever hoped to understand. Death will not stop my love for Ryan. Even though we are apart, it is now my job to carry his torch, to continue his work, and to preserve his legacy.
“my partner in life and my one true love, my constant friend, and my lover, the mother of my children and my wife.”
As I read the promises of our vows, I cry over the memories we will never make.
The children we will never have.
The anniversaries we will never celebrate and the grandchildren we will never spoil.
Accepting I don’t get the luxury of growing old with Ryan is heartbreaking: a heartache that feels like someone ripped my heart from my chest. The pain of knowing I will never enjoy “what could have been” with him is the hardest truth to accept.
As I grieve, my heart is also filled with gratitude.
I am grateful for the memories shared, the love grown, and the miles traveled. Those memories fill my heart now, but I am left empty desiring MORE time with my Ryan! The world needed more time with him!
I love you forever Ryan.