Premarital Counseling? Is it for you?
Are you and your partner wrestling with the question, “Should we do premarital counseling?”
If so, this blog is for you. If not, this blog may be helpful for someone you know, so feel free to pass it on. Premarital counseling is guided conversations used to strengthen your relationships. Premarital counseling can sometimes get a bad rep, like it’s a bad thing, so I want to set the record straight.
Attending premarital counseling does NOT mean (in any way) that your relationship is bad or ‘in trouble’. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. Attending premarital counseling shows that you and your partner are committed to building a strong relationship on a solid foundation for marriage.
Finding a premarital counselor and booking your first session is a step towards a strong marriage. Obviously, I would LOVE for you to book Stressless Weddings for your premarital counseling. However, even if you don’t choose me, I beg you to choose someone qualified. Premarital counseling is so important and I want every couple to go through sessions before they get married. I believe in the power of premarital counseling so much, that I truly believe if both partners listen and apply what they learn, the divorce rate would drop rapidly.
Now you’ve heard my plea for EVERYONE to attend premarital counseling, so it’s time for me to answer the question, ‘Should we do premarital counseling?’. (If you haven’t figured it out already, the answer is a big YES!)
Here are a few reasons, I think PREMARITAL COUNSELING IS IMPORTANT.
You learn to communicate better.
In your third session, we will discuss the 5 Love Languages and how you can learn to communicate with and love your spouse better. You will also discuss ways of communicating that are destroying your relationship. You’ve heard “communication is key” and you will learn why in premarital counseling.
You learn to fight fair.
As I mentioned above, you may be communicating in a way that is detrimental to your relationship. Instead of always blaming your partner, maybe it’s time to face the reality of your issues. I use the term “fighting fair” in regards to not bullying, name calling, or manipulating during an argument. Instead, you will learn ways to ‘fight fair’ so you aren’t permanently scarring your partner with your words. You love them and I’ll help you learn to express that, even during fights.
You discuss finances.
Those mounds of credit card debt are important to discuss. And the lack of credit you have is also important to tell your partner. And maybe you have no debt and perfect credit, awesome! We will discuss why it’s important to have specific money conversations with your partner.
You can talk with an unbiased third party.
One of the best parts of premarital counseling with Stressless Weddings is the unbiased, non-judgmental environment you are in. You can share your thoughts and frustrations with an unbiased person. Talking with family and friends is important. But sometimes you need to talk with someone who is not a close family or friend, so they can give you an unbiased perspective on your relationship.
You are setting aside time to have important conversations.
When you choose premarital counseling, you are choosing to invest in your future marriage. You are setting aside time to have those important conversations you keep meaning to get around to, but just don’t have time for. Wedding planning can be stressful and time consuming, so premarital counseling sessions are a great time to have those important relationship conversations you’ve been putting off.
So what do you think? Should you do premarital counseling?
If you’re not convinced of the importance of premarital counseling, I invite you to send me your questions. I’m here to help you on your journey. Let’s chat about why premarital counseling can only benefit your future marriage.
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I hope you and your partner say YES to premarital counseling.